"If everyone does it, if not cause harm to anyone, with the pill or condoms can prevent pregnancy, why wait? Why not make sure, before marriage, if we are going to complement in appearance as important as sexual?
The most immediate answer to the above question is in recognition of our "eminent dignity" and the behavior that it entails to be happy, because nobody else will really acts on human nature beneath the ready by the Creator .. ..
We were created out of love ... this love of God who loves each one by itself and which places humanity above all creation ... with a wonderful destination, and at the end of our days, of having done to live up to the dignity of God's children will be with Him forever in eternal bliss.
The Holy Gospels proclaimed and interpreted by the Church in light of the Holy Spirit show us the proper conduct of such high dignity ... a journey that requires repeated efforts to overcome our weaknesses, not free fall, but also with grace to feel accompanied and strengthened by Jesus Christ who helps us get up and move forward with the hope of reaching the "goal." Our life is a test that measures our ability to truly love.
In life, we must learn to want what is due, is a necessary exercise of our character ... also master our instincts and desires in response to the greater good ... sublimation ... that is, catch up characteristic of our dignity ... to love as our Creator ordered us to do, the more perfect.
The love between a man and a woman grows in stages, courtship is the first one, the we get to know and spiritual integrity, then comes marriage, with the blessing of God, love becomes the "fruitful" and integrates the soul and body men and women to make them one flesh and collaborators in the divine creative project that is not over ... It is in this context that we must develop the couple's sexual intimacy ...
virginity (virtue more perfect) and chastity as sublime way of life before marriage ... and LOVE ... are eternal values \u200b\u200band virtues inherent in the dignity of the human person ... so, no matter what you say about our decadent society ... For
well-formed Catholic, premarital sex does not make sense as an end in themselves ... Perhaps there are those who have a weak moment during the engagement, but will seek back on track and prevent new cases of noncompliance with this ideal, honoring their dignity, love for God and the bride (or) ...
As this superficial question, "that if the couple need to check if complemented sexually or otherwise, to settle in marriage ... "The high incidence of separation (often on bad terms), couple of" experts "lovers ..., seems to assert that the sexual complementarity does not guarantee a good marriage ... And within the marital union, called "sexual complementarity" is acquired with the maturation process of love over time, the exercise of the intimacy of the spouses, delivery him with generous will make happy the other (a) ...
The causes of the "boom" of premarital sex, according to polls 70% of couples go into marriage having got-we had sought in crisis family in the culture of contraception and the dominant hypersexuality.
The Church discouraged, indeed ..., first, because they are part of what God had ordained for the worthy children's behavior and his happiness, as mentioned above.
Premarital sex is not bad because they are prohibited by the Church but the Church of the rule because they have demonstrated their inconvenience. Here are some reason to reflect on it, valid for all, whether or not believers
1. Premarital sex love hurt. Young people already get in courtship, which should reach in marriage, they lose part of his dream can you go to the wedding, with the hope of those who await the first delivery within the appropriate context intimate, once they have belonged entirely anyway? Clearly not.
other hand, not having been capases to wait until marriage, can lead later to question one another. Also because, once married, are sometimes present (temptations) that will be mastered, and the precedent with its weaknesses, does not help confidence.
significant are the results of a study conducted by the University of Wisconsin, United States, according to which there is a greater number of breaks among couples who have had sex before marriage, than among those who do not have had. And in Spain, according to a survey on Fertility and Family, among women who had sex before marriage, they separated after five years 26%, while only 3.7% did - seven times less! - Of they were married without having had.
2. Premarital sex can lead to wrong decisions. If we consult several spouses about their marital intimate life, we indicate that they have needed several years, in most cases, to be coupled. We talk about the importance of love, peace and tranquility for the sexual act is performed to the satisfaction of both.
Compare that situation with the couple who want to meet sexual, emotional stress due to the fact "no" to be working properly, the insecurity of the situation ..., the possibility that she is pregnant (as no contraceptive is 100 % sure) ... disappointed fear each other, etc.., etc. she leads them to experience feelings of anxiety, confusion and guilt ... and then, if you establish the habit of attending closely, they tend to be arousing negative feelings that do not help the consolidation of love ...
However, as a result of failures or bad experiences dating intimate, some forever renounce the marriage, perhaps because of distrust in itself (a) or the other (a), in others ..., to decide something are not they taking a drastic decision, which deprives them of their own values \u200b\u200band future blessing of a stable marriage that deep desire?
However, if the sexual experience in the courtship was, apparently, does this positive say that it can be relaxed to the wedding?, in any way, there are spouses who start well your intimate life and then lead to a real sexual inadequacy, and perhaps did not see who had neglected everything else, the maturation of other aspects of his personality and his relationship ...
We see that in case of breakage or because the experience was bad, nor should continue because it was good, reliable data are welcoming the premarital sexual experience.
3. Premarital sex can affect the child conceived in such circumstances. Because there is always that possibility, however many precautions are taken. And perhaps the bride and groom are not prepared to receive under those circumstances. Apart from the anxiety and insecurity experienced by the months prior to birth, is not the best environment to accommodate the child. All this on the assumption that there are oriented towards "the solution" of abortion, with all the trauma that can mean for a woman to have destroyed her child. "It is easier to remove a child from the womb," says the English psychiatrist Frank Ayd, to get him out of his mind. "
remember, then, the need for a "spiritual sense" of marriage, believing that to be important in it, the sexual aspect, is by no means the only one ..., well that must have clear criteria the engagement, a period of preparation for marriage, but not an early marriage ..., and do not forget to avoid the dangers, because the attraction of men and women seek fulfillment in the physical life and if not avoid the chances of risk The results will not wait. Being faithful to these three points, the problem of premarital sex, be mitigated to a large extent, and the period of engagement will be placed in its proper place that council meeting Gounod's Faust: "Never give in slightly until you take your love ring Wedding. "
Christian chastity is no enforcement ... but love, confidence, responsibility, sublimation is seek to exercise self-control dignity of its own, to achieve the purpose for which it was intended by the Creator ...
Moreover, if being engaged, you are confused about this issue, reflect on the matter with the help a "good" spiritual director ..., learn to act for the sake of Christ and the love that exists between you, which should begin mature ... and see how your life will be brighter and happier ...
L. Menguez risk, and RN
