THE DURATION OF THE DATING
PLAN IS RIGHT AND GET EVERYTHING YOU NEED TO TAKE A DECENT FAMILY LIFE, BUT THIS SHOULD NOT BE Pretext to delay indefinitely a COMMITMENT ...
By Jose Luis Olaizola. Premio Planeta.
It is becoming fashionable to put people to marry, but in line with the consumer society, which brings about so many are marrying late and wrong. It is not unusual to hear comments on this note: 'Who would say! Fulanito and Zutanita after fourteen years of dating and married a year apart. Not because they had no time to meet. "Of course, they had time to meet and know so much bored. When the engagement was too long, the only thing it serves is to get tricks. Each case is
in this case the length of engagement, but the most common today is that couples need to have so much to get married, that when they no longer get enough energy left to the main thing: love, raise a family, educate children and educate themselves on the interesting adventure to persevere in love. To fall in love with a charming girl of eighteen, or vice versa, it serves anyone. For forty years after staying in love takes also a certain amount of intelligence.
Given my fondness for writing novels that force me to go into the past, I have seen how, according to run the centuries, the delayed age of marriage. In times of the Cid-XI-century knights and squires being married the daughters of the twelve or thirteen years, just reached puberty. Of course the floor had no problems. Townspeople stood a house in just over a month with help from neighbors, then to live only needed four walls and a roof. The ground floor was packed and had no plumbing, no electricity, no footage of many different devices as ranks first in modern cockpits of today's consumer society.
Four centuries later, in the sixteenth century, things have not changed much and, at most, the age of marriage is delayed by a couple of years. Mother Teresa of Jesus, the charming Dona Beatriz de Ahumada, married thirteen years and managed to have ten children. Catherine of Aragon, which eventually was lawful wife of the redoubtable Henry VIII of England, was previously married to the elder brother, Prince Arthur, both being about fifteen years, and produced great surprise they failed to consummate the marriage, which attributed to illness of the prince, who died a year later. In the nineteenth century the thing is kept within reasonable terms and the girls married seventeen, eighteen, or, at most, of nineteen. The debacle comes at mid-twentieth century, which with a few decades apart both marriages are delayed by an average of ten years that the young have very little chance to remain such when I get it. Get your facts straight.
Why lengthen both dating and marriages are delayed? Because today the partners understand that love, not to wither, it must be properly framed, floor, car / s, TV, VCR, stereo, transoceanic honeymoon and counting. Consequence: budgets billionaires for celebration and for subsequent maintenance.
- And how old are you married?
"But I, dear reader, I married twenty-three years and my fiancee had two less. From our honeymoon we went to The Escorial and then settled into an old floor, old rental, in that we were lucky, but as there have either a lift, no heat, no fridge, no nothing, we must recognize that we lived for four shillings. I understand that things have changed, but this gap had its charm. Clicking going to enjoy things slowly. The utility first car, the first trip abroad, the first time I went to dinner at a restaurant, the first seaside resort. And, of course, the first time I made love to your girlfriend that it was your wife.
- But what do you say?
"Please do not be offended. Then the engagements were shorter and more controlled. Do not say we left with a carbine, but neither gave us so many facilities. Now those engagements so long, with partying until the wee hours of the morning, traveling in groups so that couples no longer be individualized ... Anyway, what I will tell you do not know.
"I see you a little pessimistic.
I would not like. But I insist that marriage should get a good deal of wishful thinking and not ripping irlas during courtship. And, of course, with a spirit of sacrifice. A bride and groom who are accustomed to a long engagement, both by car to the door, dinners at trendy restaurants, skiing in the Alps and Christmas holidays in the Caribbean, each have a harder time to step forward.
- will not you exaggerating a little?
"I hope so. Philippine
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